But why should you trust me to understand what you’re going through?
Don’t worry – I’m not offended, it’s a question I would ask too!
I’m the mother of two young people with complex additional needs and, as I’m sure many of you know, the caring never stops – even when they become adults. They still need me to manage their lives and all that it throws at them.
I was a long term carer for my mother who had Mixed Type Dementia and Parkinson’s Disease.
As you can imagine, my life was very busy and I lived in a state of exhaustion as mum needed care 24/7.
I constantly felt as if I couldn’t go on – but of course I did. Juggling work, the children, my mother & the other important relationships in my life.
I was a teacher for many years and, after having my children, worked in many different types of schools, including specialist and adult education provisions.
I met so many carers who told me they were “On their knees” due to their caring role. They told me they were stressed, isolated and felt completely unsupported. This is why I undertook so much training and have focused my work around supporting carers like myself.
Supporting carers is a purpose I am passionate about.
Four years ago, whilst working for a local charity advocating for parents of children with disabilities, I was battling with the Local Authority to try to get my daughter into an appropriate provision myself!
At the same time, I was bailing my son out as he doesn’t have a great concept of money and bills and I was spending half a week at my mother’s caring for her and watching who she once was… slip away.
Every day I woke up stressed and worried. It was nearly September and the L.A. were dragging their heels regarding funding despite the EHCP clearly showing that the provision identified was the ONLY placement that could meet her needs.
I couldn’t concentrate on work and broke down a few times, hiding away in the bathroom so none of my colleagues could see my distress.
Still I ploughed on, dodging bullets every day between work, children, mum and family and then…
…I remember getting up one day and falling over. I got back to bed and couldn’t walk more than a couple of feet before collapsing again.
My body had made the decision that my life could not go on as it was – I was physically and mentally exhausted and completely burned out.
I already had Fibromyalgia and Rheumatoid Arthritis and I now had Adrenal Burnout to add to the list!
I was out of action for nearly six months trying to regain my strength.
For a lot of that time, I was unable to get over to my mother’s home and the brunt of caring fell directly onto my sister. I felt I had let everybody down!
I felt so guilty that I had allowed myself to get to this point and vowed that, when I recovered, I would work with women like myself who were in danger of overwhelm and burn out.
My clients tell me that they can talk to me because I “get” how they feel and I love supporting them into taking care of their own needs and finding their own life’s purpose.
So, what can you expect from working with me?
I know what it is like to feel OVERWHELMED, juggling several balls in the air while trying to ensure that my own needs are met.
I understand what it is to have all your FOCUS on the NEEDS of your child – whatever age they are.
I also know how difficult it is to move forward when your caring role lessens, perhaps with your young adult moving into supported living for instance – and you don’t know how to move forward with your own life – your confidence is low and the thought of getting a job or going back to college fills you with dread.
It is easy to forget who you are and wonder when you are going to have some time and space for YOURSELF. To reconnect with who you were prior to becoming a carer and to begin to discover what lights you up and brings you joy.
Working as an empowerment coach for Parent Carers, when you choose to work with me you will:
- Receive my full support
- Gain the empowerment you need as someone who cares for your child/young person
- Avoid Overwhelm, Stress and Burnout
- Find your own life’s purpose
We will begin working together in the first session to identify your intentions for the program and any barriers to your success. From that I will draw on dozens of tools and exercises to tailor the best program to help you get the results you want to see. You will discover your PowerTypes and how to use them to create the changes you want to see. I have spent several years training in different disciplines and am able to dip into whichever strategies will bring you the most significant changes in your life.
I will hold you to account for taking action throughout the program.
By the end of our 12-weeks together you can expect a profound shift in how you approach everything in life, and significant, tangible results in the area we focus on for the course.
Are you ready to take this opportunity to commit to change your life for the better?
As part of your investment in your own change and my passion for supporting unpaid carers, I pledge to set aside some of your fee so that I am able to offer the same coaching package pro bono to another carer who would otherwise be unable to afford working with me.
Before making a decision, please book a call with me HERE to ensure that we are the right fit for each other.
I also invite you to join my Facebook group HERE– dedicated to supporting parent carers
- You may only just have received a diagnosis
- Your child may be struggling at school and you’re battling to get support in place for them
- Perhaps your child has become so anxious that they are unable to attend school
- Maybe there are issues around sexuality, puberty and relationships
- What about their transition to adulthood – this can be a complete minefield to navigate
- Your life might feel as if it’s a continual battle with professionals who just aren’t listening
- Whatever issues you are facing – I can help you.
This group will enable you to meet others who are in the same situation as you so you can:-
- Share strategies, to get more assistance
- Keep up to date with news and clinical info
- Support each other through challenges so you don’t feel quite so alone
- Celebrate wins, so you get to feel loved and acknowledged for all you do
- Feel confident and supported in a safe space
Daily group activities will include:-
- Tips and Resources
- Legislation Updates
- Self-Care Strategies
- Friendship Support Match-up
- And more….
Plus, I am live in the group on Tuesdays at 6pm to deliver a short training and every Friday at 8pm for a relaxation meditation
HAVE YOU JOINED THE CARER'S CORNER COMMUNITY YET?
Join today for support, information and to connect with other unpaid family carers like yourself. I’m live in the group every Tuesday evening at 6pm and again on Friday evenings at 8pm for a relaxation session.
Check out what some of my previous clients say
I have worked with hundreds of carers over several years and, without exception, they have all reported that they were able to manage their caring responsibilities with much less stress an more hopre for the future
I’d be happy to have a chat if you have any questions. If I can’t help I may well know someone who can.
You can get in touch with me by clicking the button below.