But why should you trust me to understand what you’re going through?
Don’t worry – I’m not offended, it’s a question I would ask too!
I’m the mother of two young people with complex additional needs and, while they are now technically adults, they still need a lot of support from me to cope with life and all that it throws at them.
Until recently, I was also caring for my mother who had Dementia and Parkinson’s Disease.
As you can imagine, my life was very busy and I lived in a state of exhaustion as mum needed care 24/7.
At the moment, life is such a difficult time for us all – especially for you as a carer when life can be so isolating anyway.
I was a teacher for 25 years and, after having my children, found my favourite place to work – with people with disabilities.
I am also a :-
NLP master practitioner
Advocate for carers
SEN consultant (specialising in Transition)
I’m a great believer of life-long learning and I put my free time to good use in studying!
Supporting women who are, or who have been, carers is a purpose I am passionate about.
Four years ago, whilst working for a local charity advocating for parents of children with disabilities, I was battling with the Local Authority to try to get my daughter into an appropriate provision myself!
At the same time, I was bailing my son out as he doesn’t have a great concept of money and bills and I was spending half a week at my mother’s caring for her and watching who she once was… slip away.
Every day I woke up stressed and worried. It was nearly September and the L.A. were dragging their heels regarding funding despite the EHCP clearly showing that the provision identified was the ONLY placement that could meet her needs.
I couldn’t concentrate on work and broke down a few times, hiding away in the bathroom so none of my colleagues could see my distress.
Still I ploughed on, dodging bullets every day between work, children, mum and family and then…
…I remember getting up one day and falling over. I got back to bed and couldn’t walk more than a couple of feet before collapsing again.
My body had made the decision that my life could not go on as it was – I was physically and mentally exhausted and completely burned out.
I already had Fibromyalgia and Rheumatoid Arthritis and I now had Adrenal Burnout to add to the list!
I was out of action for nearly six months trying to regain my strength.
For a lot of that time, I was unable to get over to my mother’s home and the brunt of caring fell directly onto my sister. I felt I had let everybody down!
I felt so guilty that I had allowed myself to get to this point and vowed that, when I recovered, I would work with women like myself who were in danger of overwhelm and burn out.
My clients tell me that they can talk to me because I “get” how they feel and I love supporting them into taking care of their own needs and finding their own life’s purpose.
So, what can you expect from working with me?
I know what it is like to feel OVERWHELMED, juggling several balls in the air while trying to ensure that my own needs are met.
I understand what it is to have all your FOCUS on the NEEDS of your loved one.
I also know how difficult it is to move forward when your caring role has finished and you don’t know how to move forward with your own life – your confidence is low and the thought of getting a job or going back to college fills you with dread.
It is easy to forget who you are and wonder when you are going to have some time and space for YOURSELF.
Working as an empowerment coach for women, when you choose to work with me you will:
- Receive my full support
- Gain the empowerment you need as a woman who cares for others.
- Avoid Overwhelm, Stress and Burnout
- Find your own life’s purpose.
We will begin working together in the first session to identify your intentions for the program and any barriers to your success. From that I will draw on dozens of tools and exercises to tailor the best program to help you get the results you want to see. You will discover your Women’s PowerTypes and how to use them to create the changes you want to see.
I will hold you to account for taking action throughout the program.
By the end of our 12-weeks together you can expect a profound shift in how you approach everything in life, and significant, tangible results in the area we focus on for the course.
Are you ready to take this opportunity to commit to change your life for the better?
As part of your investment in your own change and my passion for supporting women, I pledge to set aside some of your fee so that I am able to offer the same coaching package pro bono to another woman who would otherwise be unable to afford working with me.
Before making a decision, please book a call with me HERE to ensure that we are the right fit for each other.
I also invite you to join my Facebook group HERE– dedicated for women carers who support
This group will enable you to meet others who are in the same situation as you so you can:-
Share strategies, to get more assistance
Keep up to date with news and clinical info
Support each other through challenges so you don’t feel quite so alone
Celebrate wins, so you get to feel loved and acknowledged for all you do
Feel confident and supported in a safe space
Daily group activities will include:-
Tips and Resources
Friendship Support Match-up
Plus, I will go live in the group to share my many years of expertise and to support you in your caring role.
“Tansy is warm, encouraging and challenges you to be the best you can be. Using a solution focused approach she will stretch your comfort zone, provide challenge and accountability and help you to develop self esteem. Always with kindness and approval and without compromising your personal rights.”
G.M (carer for grandchild who has ASD, ADHD and hypochondroplasia)
“I was seriously in danger of burnout caring for my mother who has dementia. Tansy really helped me to look after my own needs and see that I wasn’t being selfish and that I was not alone in the guilt of feeling “not good enough.” I only wish I had found Tansy earlier. Caring would have still been difficult, but I would have coped much better.”
(M.L. Carer for mother with dementia)